Change Leadership
Scared of spiders? Performance reviews? Speaking in public?
Love this post by Shawn Hunter: Destroy one fear, Change your life.
It suggests that if you can conquer one fear, you can develop a mindset that will help you with others and change your life.
Worth a read even if simply for the reinforcement that it is possible.
I like this TED talk on breaking a bad habit. It has a practical approach that I think could help.
When I was growing up and my mother wanted to “point out the error of my ways”, I remember that she often prefaced her no doubt well-intentioned words of advice with: “Look at me when I’m talking to you!”
Depending on how much I wanted to hear her “words of wisdom”, especially if I disagreed with her or was embarrassed because I had been caught out in some way, I must have often looked away because the other phrase I remember was: “Don’t you turn away when I’m speaking to you!”
Why is it that, in our culture at least, we want people to look at us when we are making a point? When I am presenting at a meeting, conference or a workshop, I know that my amygdalae, our ‘fear factory’, are quick to generate a feeling of concern that I may have lost someone’s interest if I see them looking out the window, staring at their fingernails or into space.
But is there another explanation? [Read more…]
When you’re at a party, a bar, deciding where to sit on a bus, serving a customer, interviewing someone, meeting your new boss, meeting staff as their new boss, watching new neighbours move in – how long does it takes you to ‘sum someone up’? What if you see the face of an alleged criminal on the television? And how long does it take when you meet your daughter’s new boyfriend or your boyfriend’s new girl? Two minutes? Ten minutes? Think again.
I am sure you would say you make a considered decision and don’t rush to conclusions. You might say: ‘I always give someone the benefit of the doubt’. But we all know it doesn’t work like that – and the science appears to back up what really happens.
According to some research published in the Journal of Psychological Science by Professor Alex Todorov of Princeton University, it takes us less than 1/10th of a second to decide if we trust someone or not. We respond intuitively to faces so rapidly that our reasoning minds may not have time to influence our reaction. And our intuitions about attraction and trust are among those we form the fastest.
“The link between facial features and character may be tenuous at best, but that doesn’t stop our minds from sizing other people up at a glance,” says Todorov, “We decide very quickly whether a person possesses many of the traits we feel are important, such as likeability and competence, even though we have not exchanged a single word with them. It appears that we are hard-wired to draw these inferences in a fast, unreflective way.”
Why does this happen? Can we change our reaction? [Read more…]
Photo: MIT Rob ChornMost of us are wearing fitbits or iwatch or some other device that is measuring what we’re doing to improve our health. I’m already addicted to my fitbit and walk up and down the stairs late at night if I haven’t met my target!!
Here’s what you need next: clothes that respond when you sweat. Amazing!
Check out the video even if you don’t read the article. Hang out for the last few moments – I love the way you know when your drink is ready.
This Living Clothing Morphs When You Sweat